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Tough times...

This has been a really rough week and it's only half way through. First problem was some rather severe female problems which I won't go into but made yesterday very difficult to get through and I felt dreadful all day. I had to go home and change my clothes at morning interval. Then today the diamond disappeared out of my engagement ring. It had been my mother in law's before me, and we'd had it remade when we got engaged (she had died by then). It was a big diamond from the '50s, and considering I hardly wear any jewellery, and don't even have pierced ears, I really loved it. I only noticed at school assembly today, and my poor ring looked so sad with a gaping hole in the middle. I am totally bereft but I haven't shown how I feel to anyone. It's like, well, it's only a material thing, but it was so special, and so precious, and something I never ever ever take off, and now it's gone. I doubt it'll turn up, I'm so sad about it. Now I have no rings on my finger, because my wedding band curved around my engagement ring and looked really odd alone.
Better news was I got a long letter from Kyle, by snail mail, but he sounds a bit depressed. It was fun getting a letter though. I love letters.
I was talking to my junior classes today about cyber bullying today, and explaining how electronic conversations can be misinterpreted without facial expressions, body language, tone of voice etc. I told them that there were people 'out there' on the Net who really hated me, and the girls were totally shocked! 'But Mrs O'B, you're really cool!' 'You're so nice'! It was a great affirmation but it made it hard to explain that misunderstandings lead people to disliking you so very much, and of course vice versa. The discussion led on to a lot of sharing about troubles. One girl told us how her friend killed herself two weeks ago because she was pregnant. She was only fifteen. That was a really sad thing to share, and sad for the 13 year old in my class to comes to terms with.
Apart from that, I'm extremely busy at school and have to go away next week to a conference for two days. And, well, that's that so far for the week. All very me me me... how about you?

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suilven
Aug. 6th, 2008 10:23 am (UTC)
That's a real shame about your ring. That would upset me too as I am a jewellery person. I'd like to be but I lose so much it isn't worth it. So I can appreciate loosing something so special.
natesmountain
Aug. 6th, 2008 11:08 am (UTC)
-That's a real shame about your ring.
It just had so much history, Steve's mother, and his father going straight to the bank to get the ring the day after we told him we were getting engaged... and it is such a beautiful ring. *sigh* just have to get over it! Thanks xx
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natesmountain
Aug. 7th, 2008 10:27 am (UTC)
-It's odd. I'm used to it sometimes being hot here in southern England in the summer, but this degree of humidity is really not common.
We don't really get humidity here at all in Wellington. So we're really not used to it. I can understand how it would make you wilt.

Mosquitoes? One of my prime hates! I do feel for you in that respect.

And thank you for all the hugs and nice words. You are kind. I am kind of adjusting to just not having my ring any more but I find my fingers automatically check it several times a day, just to turn it and so on, and it's Not There *pout*
blue_leaf
Aug. 6th, 2008 12:43 pm (UTC)
You are in my prayers dear. I feel badly for you losing that diamond. I had a similar thing happen to me. I was married to a woman named Beth in 1994, and she had a ring that belonged to her deceased Father with three diamonds in it. She wanted me to wear it to the wedding of my cousin. The next day when I was putting it back in her jewelery box, I noticed the center stone was gone! I was horrified. We called the church and restaurant were the wedding had been, but no luck. It took me weeks to get over losing that stone. Beth had not been at all upset at me, but sad that the diamond was gone.

"One girl told us how her friend killed herself two weeks ago because she was pregnant." Wow that is so sad! To commit suicide is one thing, but to take another life with you is so much more tragic. It is a shame that this girl felt the only option was to die.

"electronic conversations can be misinterpreted without facial expressions, body language, tone of voice etc. I told them that there were people 'out there' on the Net who really hated me, and the girls were totally shocked! 'But Mrs O'B, you're really cool!' 'You're so nice'!"

I have run into some problems with people and mistakes because of discerning the tone of a typed conversation. I know you have too. You are much more than very nice. I can sense that you have a passion for teaching and love every one of your students. You are a much more precious gem than the one you lost. God Bless you dear friend! HUGS
natesmountain
Aug. 7th, 2008 10:33 am (UTC)
-You are a much more precious gem than the one you lost. God Bless you dear friend! HUGS
Aw, John, you are so kind! Thank you for your supportive words!
-Beth had not been at all upset at me, but sad that the diamond was gone.
I think that's how we both feel, it's not anyone's fault, just a sad thing to go.

-Wow that is so sad! To commit suicide is one thing, but to take another life with you is so much more tragic. It is a shame that this girl felt the only option was to die.
THat's what one of the girls in the class said, how sad to take another life as well. The poor girl must have been in a dreadful state. I told my girls that they need to know that as adults we can see further ahead than them, and if they come to us we'll explain how things can be dealt with, that it's not the end of the world to be pregnant or to lose a boyfriend or anything like that. Just TELL someone.

-I have run into some problems with people and mistakes because of discerning the tone of a typed conversation.
I know it's not just me this happens to. Even the smallest throwaway comment can seem large and awful when in black and white on the page. It's so much harder to be clear about what you mean, and how you feel. And here people text 300 times more than talk on mobiles, so teenagers are forever having just those kind of misunderstandings.

Thanks again *hugs you back*
moth2fic
Aug. 7th, 2008 09:33 am (UTC)
(((hugs)))

The ring thing must be devastating - your engagement and wedding rings become part of you. I don't wear my engagement ring all the time because I'm scared of losing stones (it's three cats' eyes set in small diamonds and it's antique) but I can't get my wedding ring off - I think my knuckle has swollen permanently or something. Maybe you and Steve should consider something totally different to replace the combined rings.

So sharing your own concerns enabled the girls to share theirs - that was brave of you and great for them.

I'm trying not to do anything much. I've had a very painful heel (plantar fasciitis if you want to look it up but don't worry if you haven't time) and part of the cure is rest! Portugal is on hold because everyone (especially the lawyers) is on holiday, the weather isn't too bad but there are frequent showers so the garden isn't attractive, and the internet seems a bit dead - presumably because of holidays.

I should be writing but somehow I need to be busy to write - having to squeeze it in makes it easier. When I have nothing to do I just read a book and think - oh, I'll do that (e.g. writing) later!!


natesmountain
Aug. 7th, 2008 10:38 am (UTC)
-but I can't get my wedding ring off - I think my knuckle has swollen permanently or something.
Ouch, what if you had to have an MRI or something? Try soap and vaseline and ice... I'd panic if I couldn't get it off! You might be calmer *g*

-Maybe you and Steve should consider something totally different to replace the combined rings.
Yeah, I thought I could try looking for something different indeed. Not sure what... !!!

-I should be writing but somehow I need to be busy to write
Poor you with a sore heel. I understand the needing to be busy to write. We are so used to writing being a luxury escape, it's hard to just 'have time to write'!! I can't even imagine it LOL! But I'd like to...

-So sharing your own concerns enabled the girls to share theirs - that was brave of you and great for them.
I'm very brave in the classroom LOL! I can do anything. I'm like superwoman in there! Pity I can't be like that all the time.
And thank you for your kind words and hugs *hugs you back*
greenpizzazz6
Aug. 7th, 2008 10:13 pm (UTC)
Hope you're feeling better! Sounds like a rough day, hopefully things have gone uphill from there!

That is really sad about the girl. So hopeless.
natesmountain
Aug. 9th, 2008 07:33 am (UTC)
Hi there! Yeah, things attempt to improve, although it seems like it's just difficulty on top of difficulty this week! I'll maybe post about it all!
That is really sad about the girl. So hopeless.
And yeah, a girl killing herself over a baby. So not the right decision, huh.
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