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I just found out this evening that a friend of mine has died. Tina. I didn't know that she was ill and things spread really fast and she died this week. The funeral was yesterday but I had no idea or I would have gone. We weren't close friends but we have a good friend in common, and we'd been to lots of parties and barbecues together. Once I went to a fun aromatherapy evening at her house, and her husband did some of our electrical jobs. She had stopped being a hairdresser and has worked for quite a while now at our local pharmacy, so we always had a chat whenever I went in there for anything. I talked to her quite recently. I was at the pharmacy earlier this evening and was looking around for her... now I feel bad, because she has died. She was only a year older than me...

Interestingly, while I was at the pharmacy tonight I chatted to a friend of mine from the parish, who usually goes to church up at Good Shepherd, where the Samoan community attends Mass. I was her tutor for Walk by Faith (a religious diploma) a few years ago. She asked me what I thought of our new priest. I hesitated, then I said, 'I've tried and tried to love him' and she burst out, 'Me too'!!! She had all the same horror stories as us and was thinking 'was it just her' but I reassured her that we were all finding him extremely difficult.

And when you think about life and death and what's important, you want to think, hey, what does it matter, just get on with things, maybe it doesn't matter what the priest is like... Takes a special kind of guts to just forge on and do the right thing anyway. Guess I have to though, to be true to what's right and what's good and, without being a Religious Right Fundamentalist, what God wants me to do. And I know that includes being loving. Kind. Patient. That kind of thing. And I can fail at that along with the best of them... but I am repentant when I fail. And I keep trying - I don't give up... much. I had a long chat last night on the phone with my young friend who still works at my old school. We determined that she can't give up, and I promised to come round at the end of the year to see how well her children have progressed, just to keep her working at it. I'll have to grit my teeth to go back in there! OMG!


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Jul. 18th, 2008 10:12 am (UTC)
I'm sorry about your friend. It's harder when younger people die. We always think they had so much more ahead of them.

Loving, kind, patient - exactly the qualities that are missing from the fundamentalists we were talking about.
Jul. 18th, 2008 10:19 am (UTC)
-Loving, kind, patient - exactly the qualities that are missing from the fundamentalists we were talking about.
I think you're right there!! Maybe that's just what they need. And their words are filled with the right kinds of things, but they just seem to get warped and twisted somewhere in the telling.
Jul. 18th, 2008 11:09 am (UTC)
May she rest in peace and rise in glory.
Jul. 18th, 2008 11:52 am (UTC)
Thanks heaps, I appreciate your kind thoughts for her
Jul. 19th, 2008 03:26 pm (UTC)
And I keep trying - I don't give up
And that's one of the hardest things to do. If you can keep doing that, you're doing amazingly well.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.
Jul. 20th, 2008 02:56 am (UTC)
Thanks so much. You're always comforting to have as a friend!
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