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Days off... and a death...

I am so lucky, I get tomorrow off. I said I'd maybe need every second Thursday off, to catch my breath, and the boss said did I want more. I didn't. And I said not to give me this Thursday but Chris, who does the relief, insisted. She wants me in one piece all term, so if that means getting relief for me once a fortnight, that's fine by her!

Sadder news was my friend's father, Mr K, who died this morning. This is the friend I spent the day with last week, catching up as we do each term, the one whose son had leukaemia when he was little. Her mum died a few years back and her dad today. He was not well, with quite rapidly advancing dementia, but the family collectively were supporting him at his home. Thing was, he didn't appear at Mass on Sunday, so my friend's husband, Kim, popped round to the house, and Mr K had had a massive stroke and was lying on the bathroom floor. They got him to hospital but the stroke was too severe and he died peacefully this morning. Kim phoned and said he was smiling. The funeral will be on Friday afternoon. I guess I will have to miss my DRS cluster meeting, because this is important. Mr K was a hard worker, and a good parishioner, a painter, who painted more than half the school and presbytery at some time or other over the years, and both of his daughters are my friends. He often came to Mass early, mostly because he lost track of time, and he'd sit at the back and smile at us as we practised our music. I'll miss him a lot. He was an Irish man, who went back to his village after forty years away. He'd left as a teenager. He went back, wandered into the pub, and swears that some locals just nodded at him and said calmly, after forty years, 'Now then, Seamus.' !!!

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moth2fic
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:03 am (UTC)
Sounds like a sensible approach to relief!

Sad about your friend's father but maybe it would have been the way he wanted to go after a full life and with his quality of life impaired. Your friend will be glad of your support.

That sounds about right for Ireland. It would work that way in parts of England, too!
natesmountain
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:08 am (UTC)
-Sad about your friend's father but maybe it would have been the way he wanted to go
I think so. No one in the family wanted him to go to a dementia unit. One of my friends manages one of those, and she said this afternoon that she's so glad he didn't get in there.

Mr K had his 19 year-old grandson staying with him for a while, and one day he pulled my friend aside and said, about her nephew, 'That boy living down the hall from me, he's very nice... but who is he and why is he here?' !!

greenpizzazz6
Jul. 18th, 2007 02:48 pm (UTC)
Glad to hear you get a day off! What are you going to do?

That's sad about your friend's father. Still, it sounds like maybe it was time, and sounds like he had a great life. I'm sure it's hard for your friend though, losing all that family.
natesmountain
Jul. 18th, 2007 09:54 pm (UTC)
-Glad to hear you get a day off! What are you going to do?
Laundry, clearing stuff, drinking coffee at my pace, vacuumming, that sort of thing. Then maybe later today... a tiny bit of writing? I dunno!
greenpizzazz6
Jul. 19th, 2007 04:43 am (UTC)
Sounds like it was a good day to get things done. And hopefully you get some writing too!
natesmountain
Jul. 19th, 2007 05:04 am (UTC)
I did the vacuum stuff (well, some of it), the beds, the clearing, the laundry, the coffee drinking... but no writing. Next time... *g*
vivh
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:02 pm (UTC)
Do enjoy your day off whatever you end up doing with it!

Sorry to hear about Mr K. it sounds as though the timing was good for him, possibly for the family too... that doesn't change the grief and sadness at his passing though, love and prayers to all of you who will miss him.
natesmountain
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:08 pm (UTC)
Thanks. For the love and prayers too. He was a really kind and gentle man, and I always had a lot of respect for him.

-Do enjoy your day off whatever you end up doing with it!
I feel quite guilty having a day off, but then I look around the house and think, I still have a life here as well, it's like I have two lives now! And I can't neglect this one just because the other one pays better *g* and it was nice to take the boys to school at a reasonable hour.

The jug is boiling for coffee... so I shall indeed have a happy day, I'm sure of it!
vivh
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:30 pm (UTC)
I think I will join you for a coffee before I go to bed!
natesmountain
Jul. 19th, 2007 05:05 am (UTC)
-I think I will join you for a coffee before I go to bed!
And that was nice *g*
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